Who Is Driving Your Life?

Anne Redelfs, MD

Who Is Driving Your Life?

March 9, 2022 Uncategorized 0

Who Is Driving Your Life?

Car MirrorThis is not an easy question since most of us have different drivers in the various areas of life. For example, someone’s dad may be driving her work life because he always demanded that she work extremely hard with no breaks, and she still feels his incessant demands when working.

Someone’s mom may be driving his emotional life. He may hear her telling him, “You’re great just the way you are, don’t let anyone change you!” Perhaps he’s resisted people who try to help him become a better person or suggest that he work on himself. “Why can’t they just love and accept me as I am, like Mom?!”

Inner children may drive people’s marriages or romantic partnerships by wanting their partners to take care of them, whether financially or with cooking, cleaning, and affectionate companionship

Boy with TeddyMost of us have a large family of “people” living within us, which also include:
a rebellious teenager
an imaginative preschooler
an oppositional toddler
a passive infant who emotionally and mentally goes wherever he or she is carried.

Please spend some time sensing into your soul about who is driving you in each area of your life: infant, toddler, preschooler, child, teenager, your mom or dad, or your healthy whole soul?

Are you feeling happy, healthy, and fulfilled with this choice of driver?


What is a soul gardener?

For much of my life, I’ve enjoyed growing fresh vegetables and herbs as well as plants that feed butterflies, hummingbirds, and nature in general. I find many similarities between gardening plots of land and tending the various aspects of our psychology that together comprise the soul. I call myself a soul gardener because I help you to get the soil of your psyche in good condition and to care for your plants that are in need. As the garden of your life becomes increasingly bountiful and beautiful, others will naturally follow your inspiration.